Depression and Anxiety

I have spent years trying to get over it and I can't. I know how you feel.
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i havent, sorry
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The short answer is and you probably know is that you have to believe in yourself and I found that the best way to do that was to have a fit body. I believed that if I could fight them physically then I wouldn't be scared mentally. I can tell you it worked for me I went to the gym and learnt martial arts the better I felt about my body the better I felt in myself. It's like runner or jogger high they call it.
You may not want to learn to fight but being fit is a great felling.
I'm 43 and have started going to the gym again to get that great feeling as well as keep fit.
I hope that helps.
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hi there…my case is somewhat similar to yours…ive been having anxiety problems…god knows since wen…but now ive started taking help from a psychologist n the therapy has really helped me…they teach u relaxation techniques n systematic desensitization…systematic desensitization means gradually exposing urself to ur fear..earlier i was quite anxious to go out alone…but gradually im trying n the result is, my confidence levels are improving…my advice to u is to make use of each n every opportunity that will help u overcome ur fears…start with simple things…dont lose heart…wenever u r alone try relaxing ur whole body…once u master that start applying that in situations that make u anxious…but the most important thing is to slowly n gradually start facing ur fear…im highlighting the word "gradually"…dont be too hard on urself…all the best!!! hope i could be of some help to u!!!
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I know you are feeling pretty low at the moment, anxiety can be overcome but does need commitment from you, You don't want to be taking any medication, as they can become addictive.

I know you say that when you google a search all you find is someone trying to sell you an E-Book. Well you are right there, but what you need to find is a program that gives you more than just an ebook. My girlfriend had been struggling with anxiety for some time, and it put alot of strain on our relationship, until she discovered this one move techniqued method.
I will provide the link in case you are interested in looking at it http://www.beatanxietypanicattacks.com/joe-barry-anxiety-release-method-review.php
This program comes with audio and videos and you have access to an anxiety coach as well.
Another program that is worth looking at is the easy calm, here is the link http://www.beatanxietypanicattacks.com/easy-calm-review.php

My girlfriend looked at both programs but chose the anxiety release, but from what I have seen the other is equally as good.

What ever you choose and how you go about finding a solution to your anxiety problems, remember we can beat anything providing we give 100% nothing comes easy.
All I can say is that my girlfriend and I have a wonderful relationship now, and yes she is the life of the party , her problems with not wanting to go out anymore have completing gone. We live quite an active social life now,
So I wish you every success with your research
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http://www.beatanxietypanicattacks.com

It’s normal to feel nervous and awkward in some social situations. Going on a first date or giving a presentation may give you that uncomfortable feeling of having butterflies in your stomach, for instance.
For some people, though, common, everyday social situations cause extreme anxiety, fear and self-consciousness, and they may become impossible to engage in. You may go to great lengths and come up with many excuses to avoid dating or giving presentations. You may not even be able to eat with acquaintances or write a check at the grocery store, let alone go to a party with lots of strangers.
With anxiety this extreme, you may have social anxiety disorder. Social anxiety disorder is a chronic mental health condition that causes an irrational anxiety or fear of activities or situations in which you believe that others are watching you or judging you. You also fear that you’ll embarrass or humiliate yourself.
If you or a loved one has social anxiety disorder, take heart. Effective treatment — often with cognitive behavior therapy, medication and positive coping skills — can improve your quality of life.
Symptoms
Social anxiety disorder can have emotional, behavioral and physical signs and symptoms.
Emotional and behavioral signs and symptoms of social anxiety disorder include:
Intense fear of being in situations in which you don’t know people
Fear of situations in which you may be judged
Worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself
Fear that others will notice that you look anxious
Anxiety that disrupts your daily routine, work, school or other activities
Avoiding doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment
Avoiding situations where you might be the center of attention
Physical signs and symptoms of social anxiety disorder include:
Blushing
Profuse sweating
Trembling or shaking
Nausea
Stomach upset
Difficulty talking
Shaky voice
Muscle tension
Confusion
Palpitations
Diarrhea
Cold, clammy hands
Difficulty making eye contact
Associated characteristics include:
Low self-esteem
Trouble being assertive
Negative self-talk
Hypersensitivity to criticism
Poor social skills
Worrying about having symptoms
When you have social anxiety disorder, you realize that your anxiety or fear is out of proportion to the situation. Yet you’re so worried about developing social anxiety disorder symptoms that you avoid situations that may trigger them. And indeed, just worrying about having any symptoms can cause them or make them worse.
Causes
Like many other mental health conditions, social anxiety disorder likely arises from a complex interaction of environment and genes. Researchers continue to study possible causes, including:
Genes. Researchers are seeking out specific genes that play a role in anxiety and fear. Social anxiety disorder seems to run in families. But it’s not clear whether that hereditary component is related to genetics or to anxious behavior you learn from other family members.
Biochemistry. Researchers are exploring the idea that natural chemicals in your body may play a role in social anxiety disorder. For instance, an imbalance in the brain chemical serotonin (ser-oh-TOE-nin) could be a factor. Serotonin, a neurotransmitter, helps regulate mood and emotions, among other things. People with social anxiety disorder may be extra-sensitive to the effects of serotonin.
Fear responses. Some research suggests that a structure in the brain called the amygdala (uh-MIG-duh-luh) may play a role in controlling the fear response. People who have an overactive amygdala may have a heightened fear response, causing increased anxiety in social situations.
Risk factors
Social anxiety disorder is one of the most common of all mental disorders. Up to 13 percent of people in Western countries experience social anxiety disorder at some point in their lives. Social anxiety disorder usually begins in the early to midteens, although it can sometimes begin earlier in childhood or in adulthood.
A number of factors can increase the risk of developing social anxiety disorder, including:
Your sex. About twice as many women as men have social anxiety disorder.
Family history. Some research indicates that you’re more likely to develop social anxiety disorder if your biological parents or siblings have the condition.
Environment. Some experts theorize that social anxiety disorder is a learned behavior. That is, you may develop the condition after witnessing the anxious behavior of others. In addition, there may be an association between social anxiety disorder and parents who are more controlling or protective of their children.
Negative experiences. Children who experience teasing, bullying, rejection, ridicule or humiliation may be more prone to social anxiety disorder. In addition, other negative events in life, such as family conflict or sexual abuse, may be
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1. Drink Chamomile tea on a daily basis(this is a mild and safe sedative which has a cumulative effect, since its a flower you may be allergic if you have ragweed allergy, so be aware of that)

#2. Exercise daily (walk, jog, whatever, just get moving, exercise is the best and easiest way to increase your resistance to anxiety and stress)

#3. No more stimulants ( this means caffiene, chocolate, and alcohol. These substances make the central nervous system overactive, when alcohol wears off it releases adrenaline causing more anxiety)

#4. Eat rice ( rice has been shown to reduce stress and anxiety)

#5. Relax more often (Anxiety has a snowball effect. The more you relax, the more your body will stay relaxed. So try and stay relaxed as much as possibly, try not to let anyone or anything stress you out)

Tip: If the anxiety gets real tough, Dont sit still and dwell on it, Walk it off, the anxiety is often caused by stimulation from adrenaline release and movement actually burns the adrenaline out of your blood stream)
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Experience.

the real question is to ask why do you have it? what are you so worried about, smile more! there are many natural things to do to stop a panic attack, try taking a deep breath and release the worry from your shoulders like vapor, feel it release and relax, take a few more deep breaths, as you do this, remember that whatever you are fearing is not the end of the world and even the worst outcome is probably not even that bad or even possible due to the law of averages, we usually over-exaggerate problems in our mind and get overly excited about the outcome and this triggers a panic attack.
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http://myanxietycure.net/ya3